Proverbs 19:23
"The fear of the Lord leads to life: Then one rests content, untouched by trouble." (NIV)
"Fear of God is life itself, a full life, and serene - no nasty surprises." (MSG)
Let me just admit - I hate being vunerable. I can talk to a friend and just absolutely hate spilling my guts. I could be crying to my husband but still hate telling him the reason for my tears. I also hate being vunerable on the internet, where anyone can read it. But, because I have no other source for venting my frustrations tonight... here goes nothing.
My marriage with Tyler is in a dry spell. I hate admitting that. I love the thought of everyone believing we are happily-ever-after and never face trouble. But, much to my dismay, that is not the truth. Don't get me wrong, overall we are very happy. But every now and then we hit these dry patches in our relationship that cause stress. They cause unhappiness. They cause discontent. And if I were to ask *almost* any married couple, I'm positive that they'd say that they've been there a time or two, or maybe even dozens. Ask me what causes it and I couldn't tell you. It COULD be any of the following reasons, or maybe all of them combined:
- We just moved. That is stressful in itself.
- Not only did we just move, but we bought a house. Again, stressful.
- We are both working many many many hours of OT a week so we don't get to spend much down time together anymore.
- I'm not happy with myself (image-wise), causing me to be sad to begin with.
- I go to bed early because I'm tired which may be because I'm somewhat depressed, meaning we hardly ever go to bed together anymore.
- We wake up at seperate times, leave for work at seperate times, spend the entire day apart, come home at seperate times, and go to bed at seperate times. See a pattern here?
I need some advice. Not just "it'll be alright" kind of advice, but more like what you do when you and your hubby/loved one are in a rut. You know... fighting a lot, walking on thin ice around eachother, not laughing and enjoying your time together like you used to, etc.
So, lets here it! Spill your guts! What do you do? Any advice?












































